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Yes, I will admit I'm not a spring chick anymore. When I arose this morning, I was able to wander around my house at five in the morning. I turned on my computer, made a pot of coffee and played with my cats. I was able to look out my window to see what kind of a day it was going to be and I pretty much was able to 'do my own thing,' as they say.
It may not sound like such a big deal, but if you are living in a traditional nursing home, believe me, this kind of freedom is as 'big of a deal' as you're going to get. I wasn't made to get out of bed at six in the morning, I chose to get up at five and if I didn't want to get up, I didn't have to. In a nursing home you will be forced to get out of bed for breakfast at six in the morning. Why? Well it's always, always for staff convenience.
When I was a nurse aide, I was told: 'We have to get them up and ready because the day shift will get mad if we don't.' So screw the day shift is my response. The day shift has 'so much to do already.' So? They get paid for their efforts. (Even though I know nurse aids don't get paid near enough for all they do) I have worked the day shift and yes, people have appointments, they need breakfast and it's pretty busy. But that still doesn't warrant dragging my old ass out of bed at that god awful hour, especially since all night I've probably already been poked and prodded, so now I've had very little sleep. No wonder I'd be groggy and upset at being drug from my warm bed. The night shift people would hurriedly dress those old people, all the while saying: "Come on, we have to be in the dining room shortly." Many elderly balk at being hurried. Hell, you'd think they had some damned job to get to, instead of paying big bucks to be hurried and shuffled to the dining room like so much cattle. Traditional nursing homes are full of damned rules. Rules that, for the most part, are quite meaningless in my book.
Once they do get into the dining room, they are greeted by nurses with med carts. Now nowhere on any prescription bottles I've ever gotten, does it say: 'To be takes in a large group at times convenient only to nursing staff.' My bottles say: 'To be taken at XYZ time of day.' That medication is supposed to be individualized, for that particular patient. But, remember, all of this is for staff convenience only. Which pretty much assures that I'm no longer an individual. Just part of a herd of cattle. Kind of like when a farmer milks cows the same time, all at once, in a big group, every day.
When it's time to shower, also for staff convenience, you will be wheeled into a stall, and the experience? Well more akin to a car wash than any showers I take in my home. That Big shower wand, it gets lifted from its holder and a waterfall of water is washed over your head, your face,your eyes, your body. I'm sure this might be how water boarding feels like. Getting old and showering, equals torture. Now imagine, if you will, you have dementia and have no idea what's going on. I'm sure you would be combative too.
Today I'm going to the local store to pick up some things I need. In a nursing home, especially the one I worked at as a Social Worker, a place that doesn't even own a van for such trips; that is also a big deal. That nursing home feels it's too big of an expense to have a van to take people to the stores. Too expensive to own, even though that facility, as all nursing homes, rake in billions of dollars. But, gosh, don't spend any of those big bucks on people living there.
So as you go about your day, just think of all the little freedoms you are enjoying. Remember, those freedoms will evaporate if you have to ever live in a traditional nursing home.
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Friday, September 16, 2016
For elderly, the vultures will hover
This past summer, a person dear to me, was admitted to one of the hospitals here in Lafayette, Indiana. It is significant to mention the city and state because hospitals here that were small and cozy have been bought up by corporations. Most all of the nursing homes here have too. The once small, cozy, city hospitals, are now equipped with big machines, staff that try to act caring and the names have changed too. They once had pleasant names like: Home Hospital and St. Elizabeth, names that made you feel warm and fuzzy. Now hospitals, and nursing homes have big, inflated (like their budgets), names to impress people. In my book, those names may as well be: We're big, impersonal, and just want your money. Cities aren't the only places, even small town hospitals have merged in order to make big bucks. Corporations don't buy any hospitals or nursing homes and spend a lot of money to build all new buildings unless they stand to gain an obscene amount of money. Like my book states: These places, especially nursing homes, are a billion dollar industry, make no mistake about it.
The person in this episode went to a doctor here with an infection. Well, well, the doctors here all work under the umbrella of those corporations. I suppose if they don't then they are out of business. Problem here is: Since they are under that umbrella, they, of course, refer as many as possible to the hospital they are affiliated with. Due to the person's infection, there was a procedure that could have easily been performed in the doctor's office. Since the actual doctor was 'all booked up' for over two months, this patient had to see the nurse practitioner to be examined. Well, the procedure required inserting a catheter into a person who happened to be male. I sat in the waiting room that day and I observed many, many male patients. The stupid nurse practitioner stated: "I've never done this procedure on a male before." Not to mention this doctor's office wasn't even equipped with the proper catheter. Are you kidding me? What in hell kind of college did this dunce attend? The whole incident reminded me of the part in Gone With the Wind where Prissy says: "I ain't never birthed no babies, Miss Scarlett." I know it takes pretty extensive training (or is supposed to) in order to obtain nurse practitioner status. But since she had a problem, guess what? Yep, the patient was handed a paper and told to go to the emergency room of the impersonal hospital the office was in cahoots with. Surprise, surprise.
I went too, this whole trip was quite an adventure. Once in the emergency room, your sick ass gets to wait hours for an examining room to open up, once it finally does, you, as a patient, get a needle stuck in your arm only to wait another several hours to see a doctor. Finally someone comes in saying: "Dr So and So has ordered a million tests." Well how in hell do you think the hospital pays for machines that cost a fortune? How in hell do you think they pay for the entire hospital? By inflating your bills. So once the patient is wheeled back and forth for tests ( a nice bumpy ride would make me feel a whole lot better) then they get to wait several more hours for test results. Let me add here that those tests produced nothing unusual and the doctor was sadly disappointed. This patient is over the age of 65 so, in the medical profession's eyes, there damned well is supposed to be more wrong than the infection. A person over 65 who is otherwise healthy, unheard of. These massive hospitals are in the business of 'filling every room with asses' so my person went to the emergency room at four in the afternoon and it was after ten at night (six hours later) that a room finally became free. Oh, before being admitted, the doctor came in and said they'd 'like to admit' this person to the hospital. Ok, I inquired whether the person could go home with a hefty prescription of antibiotics and be able to rest in their own bed. I was told that of course a patient could go home, after all it's not a prison. Since we didn't just say, sure, admit him to the hospital to inflate his bill, the doctor resorted to scare tactics. Having worked nursing homes for a number of years, I'm familiar with those tactics. They went something like this: "I'm not going to say he might have a heart attack if he went home, (I think he already did say exactly that.0 But he will get better care in the hospital." Better care? Seriously.
It played out like this: He had nothing to eat since lunch. Was admitted to the hospital at ten at night and not one person on staff ever once asked him if he would like a sandwich, a nutritious drink, not even a lousy package of crackers and some juice. He got such better care that a nurse came in almost every hour on the hour and woke him to take his pulse, poke and prod and of course this patient rested well.
Finally the next morning, after all of this indignation, the patient asked if he could go home. I walked in his room about that time and said: "I'm a certified nursing assistant and I'm sure he would get much better care at home in his own room as long as his tests were negative." Gee, his battery of tests did come out negative. Imagine that. Number one, never ask if you can go home. Remember you are a paying customer in charge of your own body, even though courts are trying hard to stop you from having those rights. But for now for the most part......you can call the shots concerning your own body. Too many people think doctors are God and they think the doctor always knows best. Not so, you have to be your own champion in health care. When you are not, this is what big pharma counts on, hoping you will take every pill that is prescribed to you, whether that medicine is good for you or not. I've noticed, over the years, simple things many of us experience, have been turned into an affliction in order to sell you a bill of goods so they can make money. Doctors have become the biggest drug pushers in America. Even our televisions are trying to sell us drugs in commercial after commercial. Just be aware and do your own research because I assure you the drug companies are doing theirs.
When asked what type of antibiotic was administered, we were told which one. I said: "Oh yeah, the sort that can cause c-diff." The nurse immediately looked up, almost shocked I knew this. She tried to do damage control saying there were other factors that cause c-diff with these very heavy drugs. No, Folks, these heavy antibiotics can and do cause c-diff on their own quite well. Now, c-diff can cause harsh symptoms for people over 60 years of age and in some cases, can cause life-threatening inflammation. Leave it to the medical professions to try and cure one ailment and then cause ten more for you to deal with. The patient finally did go home that day, after several hours of being ignored when discharged and waiting for assistance to the front door. When we went into the hallway, several people who could be helping, were milling around the nurse's station chit chatting. Nice.
But I think the biggest thing that pissed me off most happened just before I arrived in the patient's room the day he was discharged. A damned vulture had entered his room and said: "Do you have someone at home to take care of you?" You want to know why I was pissed? He is over sixty and I can assure you that if he were twenty, thirty, forty and even fifty, this vulture would have never come into his room to ask that question. For one thing this vulture saw his age and never bothered to check and see if he was capable of getting around on his own. It was an infection, which 24 hours of antibiotics will make you start to feel better. He is ambulatory, able to walk on his own and care for himself. But the vultures (stupid ones anyway) simply see the age and try their best to drum up business. Business for whom, you might ask. For nursing homes and those pesky in-home services that cost a fortune. Simply because, after all, over sixty spells fresh meat and fresh big bucks. All I can say is that vulture can count herself lucky I missed that little visit because she would have been put in her place pretty darned fast. The vultures (maybe even hospitals these days) get kick backs for every elderly person they can prey upon and convince they need help just because they are over a certain age. Nursing homes don't make money either unless they are filled to capacity. So, as I said, they all are trying to fill those beds with asses,their main objective, priority number one.
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Wednesday, April 16, 2014
Pissing me off about the elderly in nursing homes
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I keep hearing and reading about a nursing home that brought in male strippers for the entertainment of the elderly, mostly the elderly women. Now I hear that some damned adult kid is suing the nursing home on behalf of his mother stating: "She has been defiled." Get the hell over it Kid!!!!!!!!!!!!
In another news bit I hear: "A nursing home held a Senior Prom for their residents. To me the strippers is treating the elderly as adults, that Senior Prom is a mockery in my book. Why? Well Senior Prom assumes the elderly give a crap about some stupid high school type dance. Yuck! While the strippers is giving the elderly the respect they deserve as adults.
Too many damned adult kids think Mom and Dad or Grandma and Grandpa must be shielded from anything sexual. Oh my, are the elderly adults now some sort of teenagers who must be protected from sex? Did the elderly Never have sex? How do the adult kids figure how They came into this world? No sex? Yes, adult elderly have likely had more sex than those cheeky adult kids have ever had. Grow up!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Too many people think elderly adults are dead from the waist down. Stop it!!!!!!!!
For that stupid adult guy who thinks 'Mom was defiled' by joining in the fun. I was an Activity Director and I can assure you No One is Forced to attend any activity in a nursing home. They are asked and apparently Mom said: "Yes." to attending. You want to talk stupid lawsuits with me?
I've seen the pictures of his mom on the news, she is stuffing money into the shorts of a male stripper and she is smiling from ear to ear. I just want to slap that adult child.
Stop pissing me off over the elderly in nursing homes. I have an entire section in my book concerning sex and the elderly.
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