Pissing me off about the elderly in nursing homes

 

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I keep hearing and reading about a nursing home that brought in male strippers for the entertainment of the elderly, mostly the elderly women.  Now I hear that some damned adult kid is suing the nursing home on behalf of his mother stating: "She has been defiled."  Get the hell over it Kid!!!!!!!!!!!!

In another news bit I hear: "A nursing home held a Senior Prom for their residents.  To me the strippers is treating the elderly as adults, that Senior Prom is a mockery in my book.  Why?  Well Senior Prom assumes the elderly give a crap about some stupid high school type dance.  Yuck!  While the strippers is giving the elderly the respect they deserve as adults.

Too many damned adult kids think Mom and Dad  or Grandma and Grandpa must be shielded from anything sexual.  Oh my, are the elderly adults now some sort of teenagers who must be protected from sex?  Did the elderly Never have sex?  How do the adult kids figure how They came into this world?  No sex?  Yes, adult elderly have likely had more sex than those cheeky adult kids have ever had.  Grow up!!!!!!!!!!!!!!  Too many people think elderly adults are dead from the waist down.  Stop it!!!!!!!!

For that stupid adult guy who thinks 'Mom was defiled' by joining in the fun.  I was an Activity Director and I can assure you No One is Forced to attend any activity in a nursing home.  They are asked and apparently Mom said: "Yes."  to attending.  You want to talk stupid lawsuits with me?  

I've seen the pictures of his mom on the news, she is stuffing money into the shorts of a male stripper and she is smiling from ear to ear.  I just want to slap that adult child.  

Stop pissing me off over the elderly in nursing homes.  I have an entire section in my book concerning sex and the elderly. 

 

Activity director in a nursing home

It's really hard to cheer people up in a nursing home.  Everyone knows they do not have the freedom they once did when living in their own homes.  They cannot go shop whenever they like, they cannot just decide to go have lunch or coffee out in the community whenever they like.

Activity Directors in nursing homes have their work cut out for them.  Before I was a Social Services Director, I was the Activity Director in a nursing home.  Corporations are so cheap, they do not see activities for seniors as anything useful, nor do they like to allocate much money for activities.  It's also very difficult to recruit volunteers to come in and provide entertainment for free.

It's kind of a myth that all seniors love to play bingo and as Boomers age, well, most of them have little interest in bingo.

There are good Activity Directors and there are mediocre ones and then of course, there are bad ones.  The one nursing home I worked at thought that Garfield cartoon movies appealed to the elderly, when in reality they liked things like The Notebook and such.  You know, real movies for adults.

I have to say the Senior Prom was another idea I disliked very much.  Most seniors liked working on quilts, having bake sales, interacting with animals and gardening.  

The Activity Director at one home, didn't see any reason to work with Social Services either in helping to alleviate what staff liked to label behaviors.  It takes all staff to help find residents things to do, meaningful things to do.

We had one lady who had worked at a department store since she was 16 years old, at 90, she missed feeling useful.  I begged activities to find her something meaningful to do, to no avail.  Hence this poor lady was pegged as having behaviors because she complained about being idle. 

If you become an Activity Director, or are one, remember all the useful and meaningful activities in your life that make your life worthwhile.